Cheating in relationships became more popular, especially in the 21st century, thanks to Technology and Social Media, we can easily connect with people and cheat, while keeping it a secret.
However, there are signs you can use to check out and know if truly, your partner is really and actually cheating on you.
The last article I wrote, was based ONLY on the female gender, where I list out major signs to know if She’s Cheating on you.
BUT This article is for both genders, you can now know if your Boyfriend or Girlfriend is cheating on you, and these signs are major pointers.
The advantages of Technology also comes with it’s own disadvantages. Just as it’s easy to cheat in the 21st century, it becomes increasing much more easier to discover if your partner is cheating on you, and thanks to Technology, it is also easier than ever.
Text messages, emails and online credit card statements leave the cheater with an electronic affair trail a gigabyte long.
We all know the typical signs and pointers that your significant other might be having a relationship outside, and they includes: weight loss, new music or food interests, the purchase of a new wardrobe, Major make up, excuses and inavailability. But if your affair radar is up — because your partner’s behavior just feels off or out of the ordinary — here are 12 not-as-conspicuous signs you may be overlooking. That could easily point out if your partner is cheating on you.
12 Signs Your Partner is Cheating on You
1: New Language:
My friend once confirmed his worst fears, whhen he heard his wife irritably yell, “Good Christ!” and this is an expression/ remark neither one of them had ever used, during courtship and their marriage period. Most shocking of all, is that this is an expression she really find offensive, when someone else uses it.
Now, this would show you, that she is probably spending enough time with her lover, ONLY then can she be able to pick up some of his/her expressions and unknowly use them at home.
2: Routine Changes:
When you’re dating, your partner always have that particular routine you’ve become accustomed too. Like for example, every evening, just like a clockwork, he comes home, asks about dinner and walks the dog.
But now, there are significant changes, and these normal routines are all messed up. When he comes back, immediately, he’ll needs a shower. Or he pours himself two fingers of scotch, when you are fully aware, that he ONLY does this during the weekends only.
3) Driving alone:
All of a sudden, your significant other starts loving the lonely (alone) life. Like a ritual, you normally hop in the car together and be on your way to your different jobs. But recently she finds an ocean of reasons to have a few minutes alone — and a need to take her own car when going out.
Normal excuses like “I have to stop at Sephora, and I don’t want to bore you!” Comes in between you, time and again. This is a major sign that the stop at Sephora, might be a lounge in her new beau home.
4) Wearing a lampshade:
You know your partner might be cheating on you, when you see huge changes in their characters. Your partner would go on to say things like “Let’s go out and get sh*t-faced tonight,” he uncharacteristically and enthusiastically suggests.
Within you, you know he hasn’t said anything like that since he was pledging a fraternity. We all know, that once we start having affair, which is no secret either, makes people feel young and impulsive again and that can spill over into other behaviors.
5) Change Your Style:
You know you need to be alert, when things your partner once hates, becomes his favorite. When he starts saying that a little something from Vicky’s Secret is perfect for you. Aha, great lover, right?
Funny enough, if you recall, you’ll get to know that he’s always claimed that lingerie doesn’t do much for him. You should probably be aware, that his new fling and affair has reawakened his libido and, ironically, he’d like it to do the same for you. (It might be love, but something is catching his attention, and he wants you to be like them, or he might go for these “types of people”.)
6) Annoying Suspicious:
When you start dating, you’ll come to know the signs right? Well, you can also use your partner’s behaviour towards you, to know if they are having an affair or not.
When you smile at the waiter, he goes off, and you know, he knows that you’re a friendly sort, and always says that this is what he love about you.
However, with a new affair on his side, little innocent cordiality like smiling at the opposite gender seems to antagonize him in ways it never did when you started your relationship.
But ofcourse, now that he’s having an affair, he knows it’s not so far-fetched that you might be having one too.
7) Starts Pointing Out Beautiful Girls To You:
No harm intended here, some girls might be tricky and want to know your reaction, but she’s your girlfriend right? You must have noticed that she’s the jealous type who never love discussing things like this.
However, if she’s start dating outside, she would be making comments like this
“Did you see our cute neighbor checking out your butt?”
“That flight attendant is really your type!”
When she starts making comments like this, it leaves you to wonder what once happened to her jealous streak. No mystery. She’s on an affair-fueled, guilt-mitigating mission to casually justify extramarital attractions and might want to push you to do something extramarital.
8) Having Affairs? It’s nothing:
When you once report your best friend’s husband is caught cheating, if you have ever had this discussion with him before, he tends to go on a rant about infidelity, but when he starts cheating himself, Instead of sharing your dismay, he becomes defensive and makes comments like this:
“Well, he hasn’t been happy in that marriage,” or “People have affairs. That’s life.” Condemning others means condemning himself — and he’s not about to go there or guilt trip himself.
9) Cheating Movies Are out of Discussion:
She always or all of a sudden, hates watching infidelity movies like Fatal Attraction? Derailed? The Affair?. It is a well known fact that plot lines that would have formerly piqued her interest now make her visibly uncomfortable. If there’s an affair involved, know you won’t be seeing it together, because she does not want to see how it ends.
10) Increased Edginess:
When people starts cheating, they tends to experience a distinctive bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of their new affair and the stress combined together, of keeping such a huge secret takes a visible toll on them.
Symptoms of people who starts dating outside their current relationships include insomnia, disinterest in eating or an unshakeable blue mood, that things which could have made them laugh, gets them more uncomfortable.
11) Overnight Expert:
When you noticed your partner all of a sudden, becomes an expert on things she never once liked or showed interest in, you have the right to be suspicious
“Did you know the U.S. has the highest dog population in the world?” When she starts spewing facts about things she once never shown interest in before, you should really be scared.
What? You even know that she does not even liked dogs that much. Could be she’s absorbing her lover’s interests, and is looking for ways to talk about him/her without saying as much.
12) Lost for Words:
You know the guy you are dating always has an answer, but now seems to be lost for words. When you tried to ask a simply innocent question, automatically his once active brain becomes fried with the details of the lies he’s told and excuses he’s made.
When you noticed that the innocent inquire about his last trip to Home Depot, seems to make him nerves, he might be asking himself questions like:
Did I tell her I went to Home Depot?
What did I tell her I was shopping for?
Is she trying to trap me in a lie?
While he entertains these possibilities, you’re on the receiving end of that strange, faraway look in his eyes you’ve been seeing all too often and might become suspicous of his recent activities.